Are you in the right relationship?

I have always wondered what defines a good and healthy relationship. I see couples from afar and say to myself that is a good relationship...but is it really?  If you are in a relationship and you are asking yourself "Am i in the right relationship?', don't bother anymore because this write up will help you find out.

The truth is that relationships are really tricky and sometimes very difficult to plan and direct. You might desire for it to end in marriage but at the end of the day, you get a different result.

Sometimes also, because you have been in one for too long, you fail to realize its not right for you. Also sometimes you get comfortable with you not being happy with the person that you forget what its like to be happy.

But when you are in the right relationship, everything is different. Th sun shines brighter, your smiles become bigger. It's good to have clear signs that you re in the right relationship and its also good to have tasks that you can work on to improve your relationship - if you really like the significant other.

To help you out, you need to read these signs written by Ibrahim Husain. It might help you.

• You spend time together doing things you both love and enjoy: This act is one of the best signs known ever. Its great to do what he likes and to also do what she likes. But even much greater to find what both of you like and do them together. Try it today and ind out that thing you both love and make it fun.

• You spend time apart, doing things you enjoy: Your partner should be able to understand that there are things you want to do alone. Maybe he loves clubbing, let him do it once in a while alone. maybe you enjoy going to the movies, do it once in a while alone. We all need time to do our own things and the right relationship and the right relationship is one in which both partners understand and appreciate that about each other.

• You fight productively: When you are in the right relationship, fighting is never about winning. It's not even about getting your point across. A productive fight is about understanding the other person, finding common ground, compromising and respecting each other throughout the process. If you end a fight feeling like you have won, you are doing it wrong.

• You each have your own friends and share friends too: I know some couples who share the same friends, not saying its wrong though. But when you are in the right relationship, you find balance between your social circle, your partner's and your shared circle. 

• You maintain self-identity: One shouldn't loose his or herself when you in a relationship. It is important to celebrate being you and appreciate each other more for maintaining your self identity. Both partners are nurtures to continuously improve and develop their "self" when you in  the right relationship.

• Very Important: Your friends and family like you two together: One of the easiest way to know if you are in the right relationship is to pay attention to the feedback you get from friends and family. Assuming your friends and family want what is best for you, a lot of negative feedback is a bad sign. 
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• You better your partner, and they better you: Relationship is not a one way thing. It is what you give in that you will get in return. When you make each other better, that's a sure sign that you are in the right relationship.

• You share a passion for your future together: Both partners should be enthusiastic about a future together. Partners who share a vision for what their future entails are in a much better position than partners who don't or the worse, don;t even discuss the topic.

• You are attracted to your partner, mind, body and spirit: Is he/she the kind of person you could have conversations with years from now when you are both old and wrinkled? Are you excited about the late night conversations as you are about what happens between the sheets? These goes a long way to show if you are in the right place.
  

• You keep each other's secret: Do you keep her secret and does she keeps yours? You are in the right relationship when you are impressed with how much your partner values protecting your secrets.

• You enjoy doing task together: As a woman, would you enjoy washing his car with him? Does he enjoy cooking with you? if yes, you are in the right relationship.

• You are compatible sexually: This probably goes without saying, but i am going to say it anyway! You aren't always going to be on the same level. Sometimes you will want more, sometimes she will. Sometimes you will feel adventurous, sometimes he will. But generally speaking you should be compatible with your sexual interests and desires.

• You share financial goals: It is a good start to share ideas about financial goals. How much income you require, what you want to do about retirement and savings etc. Strong couples even share budgets and create financial challenges for themselves.

There are many other signs that will show if you are in the right relationship or not. But these are a few that you can look out for. Does your relationship show signs of being the right one? Are there areas you can improve to get yourself there? Is it time to re-evaluate the relationship you are in?