Growing up, i use to admire the way my neighbor who is an Igbo man treats his wife. I remember peeping through the window of my house, just to see my neighbor and his wife walk out of their apartment, the man holding the woman's bag while the woman walks out majestically like a queen. After watching them for a couple of years, i then said to myself "I want to marry an Igbo man". Reason being that, to me i see them as the best husband material any woman can have.
I remember asking myself this question over and over again if I was wrong in concluding that Igbo men are very caring, until i was given the opportunity to serve in Imo State. My God, i wouldn't lie to you, but staying in Imo state for a year, made me conclude that Igbo men are really caring especially to their wife.While in Imo state, i was blessed with a wonderful family, they didn't know me from Adam, but welcomed me as if i was a relation. My friend's father was so good to me that when i remember his kindness towards me, i just wish i can spoil him, give him a personal treat (I know i will very soon).
Now what strikes me most about this caring man is that in as much as he lost his wife years ago before i entered his house, the way and manner at which people confirm that he was a loving husband to his wife when she was alive amazed me. Hence, i was convinced about Igbo men.
Yesterday, a friend and colleague of mine made a statement that got me thinking. She said she had always loved Igbo men (Just like i always do), but she realized something recently, that it is not really about where you come from but the personality.
Is this true? Is it really a personality thing?
Do igbo men really make the best husband?
I really need your own opinion about this and also experience if necessarily...
7 comments:
Hello Sarah, good topic. I will like to be non judgemental here and see this objectively.
True igbo men seem to be the best husbands, mark you i used the word seem, but i also make bold to say they are also the worst.
From my LIMITED point, Igbo men see their wives as trophies to be shown off. The yoruba's are know to prostrate and greet, but is that really out of respect or part of their way of life?
The Igbo man does a lot of show off, the typical igbo man is proud and want to be seen as a very good man in all aspect, so showing off in taking care of the wife is a part of the deal.
Get the wife the best car, the nicest of things so that when they go to the beer palour to hang out with their friends, they can boast and say sharrap...I bought my wife a Lexus jeep, what does your wife drive ?
To the igbo man the wife is to be shown off. you find out that most illiterate igbo men do not marry illiterate igbo women, they marry women who has a degree and works. but they compel them to stop working when they get married and say how much is your salary, stay home and i will pay you, and the wife ends up becoming a baby making machine. The wife is a Trophy to be won and shown off.
Lets take a statistic of Men you see at Hangouts, the Igbo men are more, followed by the yoruba and then the Benin men. They cheat more on their wife (Joel's Statistics)
Conclusively, my point is the Igbo man is good, yes, but is just an act for the public.
wow..thank you so much for your comment. I must say to an extent i really concur to all you have said...
Of course yes uvbi.
No, they are trading materials
Not really . I think ukwani men re d best
Some tribes are known for certain characteristics but I think its all about the personality
Nice job on ur blog .
Yes sure. But personal opinion is that it's not about tribe or nativity. There are good and there are stupid men and also women from all tribes across the globe my sister. Don't be deceived. It's all about individuality and mentality.
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